Book Title: Falling Into You by Jasinda Wilder
There are three important things I understood after reading the story. First is that compassion and pity are not the same: pity is looking down on someone, feeling sorry for them and offering nothing; compassion is seeing their pain and offering them understanding. Usually, people get mistaken for giving pity instead of compassion for other people who are lost, completely drowned out of sadness, mourning and longing for someone who can't be with them anymore and loneliness. Second is that, people always say that time can heal everything but it actually can't. Nothing can stop pain, not even time. Even if you try to make yourself busy unto something to forget your grim and hurtful past, it would still continue to go back straight at you over and over, to hurt you, to haunt you in your dreams and still make you miserable. That is why people usually tend to hurt themselves physically through cuts, they think that it's more bearable than being hurt emotionally. For example, you lost someone you love and you found another person. People are scared of loving again for they can't forget their first love. Forgetting is the mind's way of helping people heal, helping them move on but people get stuck of the moment of their loved one's lost. Locked into a cycle with no way out. People need to find a way to break the cycle.
People need to FEEL and take all the pain. Grieve. Let themselves feel all the anger at the fact that they lost someone they cherish. Feel the loss of someone you love and feel the sadness and longing. Don't stop yourself from hurting emotionally but don't cut and don't drown yourself from drinking. Just sit down and let it rip you apart and get up and keep breathing. One breath and one day at a time. You're not okay but you are still alive, and you will be, not today but someday. It might sound easy, but it's not. It's hard but it's the only way. People don't actually totally let go of their past. It doesn't go away and people don't stop hurting and don;t stop loving. They continue to live and eventually the past gets pushed into the background letting you move on with your life and won't consume you anymore. One day, you'll realize that you're actually okay, that you've already gotten over it with and you're ready to love again. If you want to live, we should not be stuck loving the memory of someone who's gone, you have to try.
I wonder if how would their parents react if they would found out about the relationship of their daughter and sons? I mean, how would a parent feel when both their sons fell in love or actually dated the same girl? I wonder what exactly are the things Colton and Nell have gone through before crossing each other's path? It was not really elaborated well in the story what they have been doing after Kyle died. I wonder how it rips your apart of losing your boyfriend? And I wonder how Nell really felt when she was with Colton. Was it really agonizing? I also wonder if their parents were worried that their child left home. I mean, do they really care for their sons and daughters?
I actually don't have any experience like having a childhood friend, a best friend and eventually became your lover and almost became your husband and then dying because of an accident and falling in love and ending up with his long lost older brother. It's kinda messed up life, I know, and I'm not even wishing for these things to happen to me. I mean, I couldn't even handle leaving someone of saying proper farewells to my close friends, how much more if it's going to be my boyfriend? Well, I really don't know how to describe how blissful it is to have a boyfriend. I mean, I've been single for the whole 17 years of my existence, I've never been into relationships. And don't you think it's kind of something like deceiving someone when you fell in love with the brother? I mean, isn't it cheating? You fell inlove with the younger brother and fell in love with the older brother? I don't know, it really happens. Maybe it's a shift of fate. Kyle and Nell wasn't really meant for each other. Maybe Kyle's role was just really for experience, to prepare Nell for her future husband.
I think Colton and Nell would really be perfect for each other. They both lost someone they loved.
They know exactly how each of them feels. They know what they need. So they are destined for each other, to fill in their needs. Also, I figured that Colton is a perfect puzzle to fill in Nell's personal libido.There might be misunderstandings and more struggles they meet on their journey, but I know that they'll make it. They know how to endure pain because of their experiences. And in the end, they would just end up sitting on n\benches and strum the strings of their guitar, singing their souls out, speaking their hearts out, communicating through music. Proclaiming that they've won another fight and they would continue to live stronger together.
